Why oh why

do people feel the need to make others "hold" their babies... especially me... if they really thought about it theyd probably think otherwise and realise that I really dont want to hold their baby for too long... and if I did Id ask... wouldnt I?... I mean really you know the history why do it?... they may mean well but when will others especially those that should be more sensitive to the situation realise that the hold the baby approach kills me after about the third time... and its not like I can say "No I dont want to hold the baby... again..." for fear of coming across rude or something... maybe just maybe a bit of sensitivity people... it knocked me around so much lastnight after getting home... as if its not hard enough dealing with it everyday... thinking about it almost everyday... do I really have to have your "baby" forced into my arms?... just some food for thought.